Saturday, 22 January 2011

ROD: Reality Of Death...

Spare the ROD, spoil the child; ain't that what the "good book" says?

Death!

What makes one tick? What defines one's existence after he is dragged away by Death? How do we handle the loss of a loved one? What offers restraint and comfort at such a time as this?
When a stranger dies, the realization of “that could have been me” erupts within our minds. When a neighbour dies, the knowledge of never seeing that person again burns deep; regret and a rethink about the excesses of our own lives come into play; and a tear or two might even be shed on such an occasion. But to lose one dear to your heart hurts more than anything else. To have a precious person who had once played the role of a father, mother, bruva, sister, lover or friend yanked away, makes one think not just of “that could have been me” or feel that burning sensation with a tear or two. It destroys fences built and exposes one to the truth of life...

Joy at birth, sorrow at death!

Until one experiences emotional extremes prevalent on any continuum, one isn’t.....one just isn’t!
Ahh! Birth and death...birth breeds purpose, death exposes essence!the purpose? the purpose is to affect as many lives as possible for the positive and make it count! The latter displays worth and the ability one possessed for the fulfilment of that purpose given you at birth....guess it could be related to lectures and examinations....
Death...its complexities cannot be analyzed by the physical eye or the mortal mind. However, at the point of experiencing such experiences, remember...
DEATH IS....!
It just is!


...I wrote this four days before Chingy died and I can't help but dedicate this to her! what a way to start the Nu year... It's bin a while since I last felt this misery and it still hurts like Hell to experience it all over again.Someone once said "GOD IS TOO ORDERLY TO MAKE MISTAKES"...I choose to believe in YOU. Again...Thank you!

N.B: I also dedicate this to Mrs. Adediran (Ife and Dara's mum) who died on the 20th of January 2011.
RIP Superwoman (1960-2011)

=====I Have a story to tell=====

He gave me the bottle of water and said to give it to the King. It was so neatly packaged, having it’s own cup and everything that I jumped at the chance. Besides, I hadn’t had the time to go pick one up myself. As I walked over to the palace, I saw him a distance off, assuring me everything was fine, feeding my thoughts with poisonous evil thoughts that sounded all good and harmless at the time. As I held the package something just didn't feel right but hey..I was late already so I kept moving.

I got to the palace and as usual, it was full to the brim but there was always room for me, always a pathway structured out whenever I arrived. I entered confidently when I saw the King and my heart felt light and bubbly. He looked so radiant in His Agbada, His charm and authority filling the air and my lungs, and I found myself thinking “I’m so lucky to be serving You”. Before I could present Him with the water, He asked me to give it to one of the servants and held out His hands to welcome me. I ran into His arms and felt special and important, the only member of the congregation in the King’s embrace.

A little while after, I stepped outside the gates and saw the man that gave me the packaged water. Rushing over to me, he frantically asked if I offered the King what he had provided. I was about to tell him what had transpired between the King and myself when two odd looking men grabbed him. He looked uneasy at best, but not because of the men that held him, but because I hadn't finished what I was telling him.

Within minutes, I got to understand that what the man had given me for the King was poisoned, toxic, and lethal. My surprise turned to thanksgiving that my my King hadn’t taken it. My thanksgiving turned to hurt that I had been deceived so easily; and hurt turned to anger that he would use me, the unsuspecting victim, to get to the King.
The men holding him started telling me what heinous things they would do to him and they started threatening him. As I glowed in the thought of what would be done to teach such a person a lesson, I noticed he still looked eager for news. Suddenly, the King came outside, dressed in plain normal clothes, and He spat out something liquid in front of the man.The men holding him looked down immediately and stood like statues, immobile at the sight of the King. The man, mouth wide open with despair stared at the floor where the King had spat out his package. The King cursed him softly, His facade so calm you wouldn’t suspect what He had just said, but His eyes betraying the irritation He had for the man. It was then I realized it wasn’t only me that had entered into the King’s palace with such an item. He had given others too. The King, sensing the man’s total disappointment, turned around and went in, not bothering to look at me. As he passed by me, I felt a surge of love so strong it almost knocked me over. Knowing that the love I just felt was all mine, I choose set it aside for the moment, ignoring it with a mindset to deal with the issue at hand, telling myself I would still go in to feel that rush of love fill me again. I reasoned that the King was in His domain and I was always welcome so He’d be there waiting for me when I finally decided to return into the palace. I looked at the man and noticed he looked ready for the worst. I basked in the knowledge that his plans had foiled considerably. The men holding him down then brought out a whip and looked ready to make good on their threats.

At the same very moment, my King, still dressed in plain clothing, came out, looked at me and said something warm and endearing, telling me He was going out, and stared into my eyes with a message I knew I was supposed to grasp but I just couldn’t understand by just looking in His eyes at the moment. The men said something that stole my concentration from the King’s eyes. When I turned back almost immediately, He had already started moving. I desperately wanted to move with Him; knowing I needed to move with him, my place by His side, but the thought of seeing the man who had almost hurt my King taught a bitter lesson was so exhilarating, I stayed...

The men started saying some words and all of a sudden, it felt like I was looking at a courtroom scene in the middle of the road the old fashioned way, the herbalist way. I heard them go on and on and the more they spoke, the more my environment changed. I saw people come out of nowhere and they were all moving in a hurry. the weather changed considerably and a storm began to brew behind the men waiting to reek vengeance on the broken-looking man. I noticed however that the route my King had taken still shone brightly. As I thought of going towards it, the men asked me to make their work complete by finishing their sentences. They would talk and I would conclude. I realized the more I did that, the more distant my King had moved from me, and the bright light paving His departure route dimmed before my very eyes. The clouds covered the skies and I knew almost immediately that the storm was here and that it had caught me in a bad place. I couldn’t run back into the palace because the King had gone out. My legs that had felt immobile only a few seconds age sprang to life and I started running. I turned back and saw that the men holding the man had left him, and the once-broken man stood slowly, a wicked gleam in his eyes. As he stood, I sensed the guards reverence him in a way I couldn’t explain. I quickly turned my eyes back to the route I was running towards. People around me ran in different directions, their mouths moving like they were screaming but I couldn’t hear a sound. as the wind and droplets of rain found their way into my eyes, I found my mind wandering off and seeking shelter, comfort, security, and most of all, my King.

As I ran, it dawned on me that my King had taken another route. I thought of turning back, daring the odds, and using the route my King had used but it seemed a worthless venture now. The wind had become a lot heavier and the rains were pouring in torrents. Items. trees and other stuff fell from the sky out of nowhere and it was at that moment it all came to me...

The king had known! I realized then that I hadn’t needed to bring a gift for him...just myself. He had come out the first time to inform me He knew of the man’s plan, cursed him to my hearing to let me know that judgment had come upon the man swiftly, and had filled me with love without touching me in an effort to let me know that He had already paid the price and I had nothing to settle there, only alot to enjoy. It also clicked that it was for this same reason that the man had looked so broken and empty from then on. The king had come out afterward with the message of salvation in His eyes, asking me to leave my growing hunger for vengeance and hatred behind and walk the road of righteousness with Him; His eyes offering me succor and safety in his ever-pleasant haven. He had left the path open for me with the bright trail He had fashioned out for me at His leave with the hope that I would follow in his stead soon, that is until i gave into my wicked desires and forgot the reason why I had come to the palace in the first place...to be with him. I finally understood why I couldn’t enter the palace once the King had gone out...Wherever He went, the Palace went with Him.

My mind then drifted back to the evil gleam and wicked smirk the man I found myself trying to get away from had on his face and it suddenly hit me...the man had set me up! If he wasn't going to get the King, he was willing to drag me down with him at all costs. He had been willing to play the destitute knowing I’d be drawn into his scheme if he played his part well enough. At that instant,I cried out for my King with the rain in my eyes, trees in my way, and my resolve to overcome. As soon as I felt my ache for him reach its peak, choking me considerably, my phone rang and immediately I opened my eyes...

Me...on the couch...breathing heavily....looking around wildly, frantic to get away from the evil man that had seemed larger than life just a few seconds ago... it took only a moment to click and then another moment for my brain to register it fully...it was a dream!

The phone had stopped ringing and I sat, afraid for a few minutes. Then i felt a conviction in my spirit to write my experience down. The minute the conviction came, I rejected it because I didn't want to remember what had caused such a stir in me; but it just kept on coming strong; reminding me I had ignored writing and telling of the time I saw the evil face and black horses all covered in smoke at the window some years back; keeping it to myself and withholding the ultimate revelation that came with it. The conviction, coupled with the images of the new information that had crept into my mind, forced me out of the couch and to my laptop. As i reached for my laptop, I stopped halfway and considered what I was about to do...if I relived what I had just seen, no matter how difficult and scary it might be, there would be no going back...EVER! After a moment’s thought, I still reached out and grabbed my laptop. I lifted the screen and powered it on.

Then as I bent my head down and placed my hands on the keyboard, I heard it in my head, as clear as I heard my own heartbeat; simple words that sent shivers down my spine as the weight of the words sunk in deep. They were simple, structured in the way most of the greatest stories ever told often started. Clear as the rustle of the wind colliding with palm trees on a windy day,my head resounding the words as I began to type; I heard...I HAVE A STORY TO TELL!

:=:=:=:=:=FOOLS’ GOLD=:=:=:=:=:

N.B:
NOT FOR THE FAINT-HEARTED, LIGHT-HEADED, JUDGMENTAL, HAPPY, MERRY, OR THOSE IN LOVE!!!

KEEP OFF----------YOU’VE BEEN WARNED!!!

ECCENTRIC, LIBERAL, FREE-THINKERS WITH A DASH OF MAJOR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES…HAVE A FIELD DAY ON THIS ONE!!!



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“I can’t take it anymore!!!”

Every fucking holiday patronizes me on it, the bible is well aware of it, endless websites advertise it, lovers preach it, a multiplicity of advertisements persistently urge “the plunge” whenever its topic is raised; and (the worst part of it all) undeserving, psychedelic, schizophrenic, good-for-nothing, know nothing, boot licking, club-hopping, Booster hustling', Roller ducking', street loving' Sixty ex.’s, no commitment retards get it!

I’m tired of this shitty excuse of a mystery; a myth that lures you deeper and deeper into using people and in turn be used.

When will it end???

Love Sick or sick of love, you might say? …you be the Judge. I’m done being judged when I’m both the Judge and Jury!

Not being inside the comfortably safe zone of being in love and being loved in return is frustrating when all you’ve ever tried to do was get there. Worse still is the reality that we move in and out of it so much, we become routine lovers and program our minds to the catch-phrase “we make up to break up, and breakup to make up”.

Recently (and by recently, I mean this past year), I’ve had the time of a lifetime doing the things I always wanted to try out. Honestly, it’s been amazing! The adrenaline has been mind numbing so far. Say it and it’ll very likely fall under the “been there, done that, won a damn T Shirt” category for me. As it is customary with all things in my life, I achieve. Its so simple…so easy to spurt out; but it’s the truth. I ACHIEVE! Granted…I make a few mistakes and disregard a few vitals but in the end, I get the job done beautifully…a perfect execution of tactics, skill, and brainpower. Yet I find myself grasping for that something…that missing craze…that look you see in someone’s eyes that tells you they’d rather die than lose you; that look that speaks volumes with the hidden meanings lying underneath like treasures undiscovered; the smile that tells you that you’re stuck with me no matter what so get used to it; that feeling of giddiness you get when you look over the mess you’ve made while trying to steal a hug that tells you “I couldn’t possibly be any happier than this”; that kiss that awakens the desire inside of you, makes your world come alive, kills all logic, and renders you useless to anything and anyone except the person you are ‘sucking face’ with; that kiss that you find yourself hopelessly drowning in, making your legs wobbly, and disabling your brain from telling where one person’s mouth stops and the other begins; that look…that feel…that kiss… <sigh> …that’s the shit right there…the holy grail of a fools’ gold!

Oh, and while on the subject…who’s the fool who said “we break up to make up?” Bloody Idiot, that’s what he is!

QUICK QUESTION: How many more songs do we need before we finally get the concept behind a classic bitch-slap?

Alicia Keys already said it: Try Sleeping With A Broken Heart <done and done>.

Mariah Carey emancipated on it with: Obsessed

Beyonce went all out on it with: Broken Hearted girl, and My Next Ex.

Rihanna simplified it for all the dummies with: Russian Roulette, and Rehab (don’t even get me started on this one right here); and

Lady Gaga wrote a PhD on it with: Bad Romance

FACE IT…the awareness is everywhere!
The best and worst part of not having this accursed gold at your beck and call anymore is remembering what it was like NOT to know how good it felt and being oblivious to what it tasted like. The thrill of it is so addictive, so destructive, so seductive, and so insanely dangerous an affair that only the ruthless of the lot eventually stay afloat long enough to grasp it :- these are the faithfuls turned renegade as a result of the resentment and hurt of once being an innocent now turned victim. 

And yet, when it’s all said and done, I still yearn for this treasure belonging to only the biggest of fools. Don’t get me wrong, I never said to stay away from it. Heck, if anything, I urge you to crave it, find it, and never let go.

Forget what you’ve been told. It’s real and it exists. Earlier frustrations now being cast aside as “so five seconds ago”, I still strive for the gold. I’m still in it to win it baby (don’t have much of a choice really-it’s either that or I join a seminary <shivers>). 

So yeah, I’m going for the gold and I ain't gonna let up until I wield its riches. Like the greedy bounty hunter who just wouldn’t listen to reason, I’m jumping in headlong regardless of whatever lies ahead.

....After all, it’s not called A Fool’s Gold for nothing! <Evil chuckles!>

...And If I Haven’t Told You

If I haven't Told You...

Loving God... Unloving God...

Believing in God.... Not Believing in God...

Divorcing God.... Running back to Him....

To write this in 3rd person would bring me joy and let the spotlight be off me but I realize that to be true and honest to myself, this is my story...my life...my testimony...

I have treated God so bad these past couple of years...toyed with Him...played Him for the fool. Amazingly, He cries. I know He does.  I know God is all encompassing and He rules all but I know God in a way many people don’t. I don’t read my bible often...I rarely pray unless there’s a problem...still He’s always there...always listens.  Even as I write these words, at the back of my mind, I see myself falling into sin and planning to go back to Him. So I write these words, to know that what I feel for Him now...this very minute....isn’t just a feeling. It’s my soul being drawn to His. I have hurt Him so bad yet He loves me. I understand God in a way many people don’t. I know this because as I cry, He cries. As I pray, He is with his pen and paper jotting down all my needs and adding them to His list of things He wants so badly to do for me. No one can understand the amount of times I have broken up with God, forgotten His word, walked out the door when He was begging me to stay, slammed the door hard on His face and, with my actions, told Him to go to Hell forgetting He’d been there once for me already...no one can understand the effect of His love for me because no one knows Him like I do. I have learnt to run back to Him in times of trouble and when I sin. Now, it’s time to learn to love Him back...to stop running back and forth...and just be there, when we fight and He keeps quiet, when I am tempted by the parasites that abide and attack from all sides of this earth, I still choose to stay. I choose to remain with the one person I was in love with before I even knew what love was...before I was even capable of loving, before I knew what hatred felt like, before I knew how good sin tasted. I understood and bathed in unconditional love. My adoration not only for who He is to me but for what He is to me might faze you as mere words; but then again...No one can understand the Love God has for me because no one can love me the way He does.

And as I sit here, tucked under my duvet, i can’t help but ask myself...if you could go through four years of undergrad training and a combatant MSc programme for a year and take all the lessons taught (ergo, learnt) just to graduate and get only a piece of paper saying you went through it to show your worth over the years, why can’t you sit down and learn to love the LOVER OF (NOT JUST YOUR SOUL BUT) THE WHOLE OF YOU and please Him.

No one knows God like I do...I have felt love and He reminds me in amazingly small ways just how much love He has for me. Best part, He’s rejoicing because He feels the love I Have for Him. He’s a jealous God but wouldn’t you be if you loved someone so much? Would I show love over and over and over to someone who rejects me? Probably not...but He does. His jealously isn’t part of His hate...it’s the best part of His love!!!

For someone that hates the darkness, He finds it comfortable to be engulfed in it when I am there. In my darkest of hours, He forgets His dislikes and stays with me through the dark times talking me though it patiently, not so that He can get out of the dark quickly, but so that I can see the beauty of the light again. He waits patiently and gives the best of gifts at the rightest of times... listens intently to my wants, writes them down...and gives me the best of His...patiently making me wait till the best of mine is at the top of the best of the best of the best of His list. What can go wrong when someone that rules over everyone alive is so in love with you that He would literally stop everything else to meet your need? He’s patient with me so I can learn to be patient with Him. It is a relationship after-all, not a religion.

I know God...but not nearly enough...not even close to the way He knows me!
Oh...and if by chance you get to read this and you’re thinking “hmmmm...this is not normal for Dharpoh to say, I stand tall and proud of Jesus in every way; so all I can say is “welcome to the new normal”.

I know God...but not nearly enough...not even close to the way He knows me!
So with my heart ready to pour out exactly how I feel, I leave you to your thoughts, get down on bended knees, and start with the words...

Dear Jesus,
If I Haven’t Told You...